The 7 beliefs of the super happy people
Super happy people: there are so very few of them! I think I got to meet the first one when I was 20... You certainly don't see them on TV, and even if you were to, it wouldn't help much: you got to meet them to understand what they are about.You might be wondering if those happiness superheroes actually exist... Well, they do, and they are neither lottery winners, nor the products of genetic engineering! They are normal people, like you and I, who have learned some pretty important lessons. Trivial stuff, superficially, but enormously potent when you deeply believe it...
1-You are ok
You are as you are, with all your limits, with all your faults, the good and the bad. You have the right to exist and be happy.
2-Your life is no accident
Your life has a meaning: it might be humble, it might be great, it might be rational, or it might be totally weird! No needs to explain it: it just makes sense.
3-You can choose the life you want
You can enjoy what you have and change what you don’t like.
4-Your past is ok
There are things your are proud of, and maybe others you wish you hadn’t done. There are periods in which life has treated you well, and others in which you felt so very unlucky. All is all part of your story, all is part of who you are.
5-Your present is interesting
This crazy thing called life is so damned interesting!
6-Your future is bright
Things will turn out well. If anything bad happens, you will cope with it and you will find a way to learn from experience.
7-You are loved
Loneliness is just a state of mind: if you close your eyes, love is all around you!
Well, reading what I have just wrote, I know I sound a bit cheesy... my mind wonders to those old pickup lines which never worked: 'Baby, somebody better call God, cuz he's missing an angel!' On the other hand, each and every point is 100% true, at least, that is the case when you do believe it: we shape our reality from the inside out.
Personally, I am having challenges in fully focusing on my present: the future always seems more interesting! I am also in the process of accepting my limits: a tiny part of me still wishes I could be perfect!
And what about you? Do you agree with all of the 7 points? Would you be willing to adopt a new belief if you knew it could greatly improve your life? How could you reinvent this list so it does become yours?
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sounds great, but how can I believe something I dont't believe?
Posted by: Liz
Good question Liz. Our beliefs are learned, most of them are great stuff, but some others are not serving us well. We can unlearn what we no longer need and learn what can make us happier. How? Counselling is one way to do it. Modelling is another, in other words, hanging out with very happy people who can inspire us might naturally lead to a positive change within ourselves.
Posted by: Marco
I just stumbled on this page. All points above are good here. I'd like to add a little since I think about this topic a lot. True happiness is something I find even when I have nothing. It is easier for me to be happy when I have less. Simple is good. Ultimately, for me it is a choice. I decide that I will be happy and seek happiness. I tend find the greatest joy in helping others find happiness. Being selfless and caring really gives me the perspective to see the good in other people even when others can't. Seeing goodness and experiencing joy brings me happiness. Joy without guilt is the best joy. So when I'm helping others, I can seriously enjoy it without feeling guilty. The only flaw here is that I learned not to help others if they aren't willing to help themselves. That ends up helping no one in the long term. I think my greatest happiness will be when I can meet my own expectations in life. The big question for me is what do I want to do most of all? I wish I could answer that right now so I could get started on my plan to ultimate happiness. :)
Posted by: Chris
Chis, what an interesting comment! Guilt is such a burden, especially when you are happy and those around you aren't. Take a look at http://www.evenhappier.com/inspiration/can_i_choose_to_be_happy_every.html
you might like it
You say "I think my greatest happiness will be when I can meet my own expectations in life. The big question for me is what do I want to do most of all?" Looks like you are making it impossible to find your greatest happiness, and that might be the safest option for you, if you still have a bit of guilt to let go of.
So go ahead and recognize it: "I don't want to find my greatest happiness." True? Say it aloud a few times. See what happen. Good luck, Marco :)
Posted by: Marco
I just found your site and I really like it. What an exciting blog!
Your recent post ("7 Beliefs") is a very nice post. I believe that the line of thinking your note is sufficient to increase happiness and well-being.
I'd also like to add, if I may, that true happiness is not a destination but a daily ritual. The most important belief that one must have for more happiness, in my opinion, is this: Happiness is a choice we make each and every day. It is something we impose.
Best,
I'll be back often!!
Posted by: www.thehappinessblog.com
Thanks for the compliment anonymous commenter!
I agree with you in saying that happiness is a choiche. Daily ritual are also very important.
BTW, the "7 beliefs" post talks only about "Beliefs" of the super happy people, not of their habits or of what they have done to be extra happy. That's way I have left choiche, rituals, and many other things out of the 7 points.
PS: when leaving a comment, put your name on the Name field so I know who you are. You can always place the url of your blog in the body of the comment and in the URL field.
Posted by: Marco
One way to believe something that you want to believe, but don't yet believe for you, is to "act as if" it were true.
Posted by: Celestine
Thanks Celestine: that's absolutely true! How could I possibly forget it?
Well, I have noticed that you have been away from the blog for a while: good to see you back ;)
Posted by: Marco
How can be really happy who is conscius oh his mortal destiny?
Posted by: Cassiel
Cassiel: well, when I have less of something, I usually value it more...
Posted by: Marco
loved this post, i'm a believer!
Posted by: tieore
What a great page. I had just stumbled upon it. I am constantly in a battle with myself to find true happiness with in myself. I am my worst cridic. I understand that it is a choice. I just don't know how to choose it. If that makes sense. Yet something hit me when I was reading this and maybe I need to bring more positive ppl into my life. I think this page and all of you will be a good start. It's good to know that there are other ppl out there like you who want the same things and can help you by sharing their feelings and ideas on how it all works. Thank you. I will definitley be back. And am looking forward to everyones comments. Take care and I hope you all find your inner peace.
Posted by: Christine
Welcome to EvenHappier Christine, and thanks for all your nice words!
I hear you have been hard on yourself in the past: if you were your own ideal parent, how would nurture and reassure yourself now?
Posted by: Marco
i always find when i reflect on my closeness with God, I am confident,truly happy and have the faith to hurdle on thru lifes many dark times.I am not at all trying to preach,I just honestly feel beautifully at my happiest.Where time,people,and places have no relevance to my happiness;only my faith with God.
Posted by: jessika
Hello Jessica,
It sounds like faith is one of your character strengths, good for you.
I wonder if you also rejoice in the company of friends and family, when you see them as gifts from God, or when you recognize their potential to be close to an higher being in ways which might be different from yours.
Posted by: Marco
Im quite willing to believe in something if it woudld change me for the better.
Could you tell me what though, as its all well and good saying this hypothetically, but lets put it into pracice please.
Posted by: Solly
What I love about this post is that it empowers people. Great job, Marco.
Posted by: Leo
Leo: Thanks for your nice comment!
Solly: I hear you about making things more concrete. I'll write a post on how to practically change a belief. Thanks for the tip.
Posted by: Marco
I love the 7 sentiments.. my addition is this: Live in the Moment!
It's all we really have so enjoy it to the fullest or wring it to the fullest just don't forget to LIVE... the future will take care of itself..
Posted by: Elaine