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How to cut down drinking and stay popular Please, not another toast! That’s what you are thinking whilst a friend is pouring you another drink after a long night of booze. Tomorrow I am going to be sick all day… So why don’t you just say no? It’s not that easy… Don’t tell me, I know, and here’s what you can do about it:

1: Accept the drink, then leave it there.
Just a drop of alcohol to wet your lips and to join in the toast: don’t actually drink. When you can, exchange your glass for an empty one, get rid of the liquid, or just leave your glass where it is: most people will not notice and those who notice won’t probably care!

2: Work out a playfully cool answers instead of plain NO.
What do I mean with playfully cool? For example, if a woman insists that I should have another drink when I know I had more than enough, I pause, I look into her eyes, and with a flirtatiously husky voice I say: "No thanks, I have got already too few inhibitions when sober…” If it is a man, I might say: “I have got only this one liver and it’s already in pretty bad shape!”

3: Can you suggest a third way? Pleeease?!
[Editor's Note: I have added here what my creative readers have suggested in the comment section.]
- A friend of mine always suggested having the bartender give you a wine glass with ginger ale... it looks like you are drinking a chardonnay, and you can toast all night! [by Jake]

- Most of the bartenders at my haunts are also friends or neighbors, so it's easy for me to convince them to watch for when i've reached the limit, and start giving me things like cranberry and lime in a collins glass, or ginger ale and tonic in a champagne flute... [by Xian]

- Cool things to say instead of a plain NO:
"My shrink says it doesn't mix with my medication. I could go into a criminally insane fugue and not remember a thing". [by Jill]
"I had a few before I got here and if I don't slow down, I might wind up in bed with your spouse." [by Jill]

Comments

A friend of mine always suggested having the bartender give you a wine glass with ginger ale... it just looks like your drinking a chardonnay, and you can toast all night.

FYI (If you want some real chardonnay, head over to this freshly launched site, Tastvine for personalized recommendations.

umm... where is my comment?

You should probably turn the moderation off if you want feedback... Then again, I was also excited to be the first to comment, and now I realize I may be 40... and I have to come back who knows when to get involved in a discussion...

club soda w/ a lime.

Jake, I like the idea of the wine glass with Ginger Ale: it is now officially the third tip of this post! Btw, I am working out how to improve the commenting system: thanks for pointing out that is not really working as it should... You see, I get dozens of junk comments every day, so if I were to immediately publish all comments, I would turn EvenHappier into a Viagra encyclopaedia!

I wonder about your "friends" if they don't accept "no" for an answer. Perhaps it's easier for a girl ... perhaps they assume I'm pregnant!

In my experience, I find it easier not to drink at all during a night out ... rather than to limit my intake to a single glass of wine ... perhaps after the first, I'm more suceptible to the "oh, have another!". I find that if I say "I'm not drinking" people seem to respect it.

It's also very curious that most events (at least in UK) are celebrated with alcohol. From "wetting" the baby's head, through birthdays, new jobs, leaving dos, anniversaries and even funarals. Do we really "need" a drink to have a good time?

Good Point Celestine. In fact, my close friends do accept no for an answer, and with my partner we often celebrate drinking rare green tea, juices, and good stuff like that. On the other hand, most of the people who I meet socially are heavy drinkers and don't appreciate any attempt at reducing alchool intake... BTW, those friends of mine do read this blog, so I guess this is my official coming out: once and for all, I don't like heavy drinking! :)

when i lived in new orleans there were definately many nights when i would quickly reach the line between tieing one on and getting tied
most of the bartenders at my haunts were also friends or neighbors so it was easy for me to convince them to watch for when ive reached that limit and start giving me things like cranberry and lime in a collins glass or ginger ale and tonic in a champagne flute and tell me it was bought for me by an admirer, or some other cheap excuse ("try this drink i invented!")
most of the time i was so drunk that i never noticed the ruse, even tho i set it up myself, and would drink enough of those to let the other alcohol process out at which time i would usually be sober enough to realize that it was time for some breakfast and sleep
i always grabbed a bloody mary to go on the way out of the bar tho, im not real sure if they ever had alcohol in them or not. didnt matter

My shrink says it doesn't mix with my medication. I could go into a criminally insane fugue and not remember a thing.

I had a few before I got here and if I don't slow down, I might wind up in bed with [your spouse].

I'm seeing if I'm happier without alcohol in my life.

Drinking makes me break out in spots. Amsterdam, Los Vegas, Tiera del Fuego.

Xian, Jill: I am literally cracking up with laughter whilst reading your comments!!

I've also heard the recommendation to alternate between alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks. That way you're still drinking all night with your friends, but having half as much alcohol. And staying hydrated :)

The only hard part is after a couple drinks, sometimes it's hard for me to remember if I were on alcoholic or non-alcoholic. :)

Userful blog. Thanks!

I always ask for cranberry juice with a lime in it. No one can ever taste the alcohol in it anyways. One time a friend of mine took a surprised sip of my drink and said this is one good drink...thinking it's cran and vodka. Later I told her the truth. She said that is why you were smiling. I feel a lot less pressure now.

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