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Happy people Super happy people: there are so very few of them!

You certainly don't see them on TV, and even if you were to, it wouldn't help much: you’ve got to meet them to understand what they are about.

I met the first one when I was 20. Before that time, I never knew that someone could be so deeply content about himself, so powerfully active in the world, and yet thoroughly enjoying each and every moment of his life.

Who was this happiness superhero? Neither a lottery winner, nor the product of genetic engineering! He was a normal person, like you and I, who had learned some pretty important lessons. Simple stuff, superficially, but enormously potent when you deeply believe it...

1-You are ok
You are as you are, with all your limits, with all your faults, the good and the bad. You have the right to exist and be happy.

2-Your life is no accident
Your life has a meaning: it might be humble, it might be great, it might be rational, or it might be totally weird! No needs to explain it: it just makes sense.

3-You can choose the life you want
You can enjoy what you have and change what you don’t like.

4-Your past is ok
There are things your are proud of, and maybe others you wish you hadn’t done. There are periods in which life has treated you well, and others in which you felt so very unlucky. All is all part of your story, all is part of who you are.

5-Your present is interesting
This crazy thing called life is so damned interesting!

6-Your future is bright
Things will turn out well. If anything bad happens, you will cope with it and you will find a way to learn from experience.

7-You are loved
Loneliness is just a state of mind: if you close your eyes, love is all around you!

Am I a super happy person? Well, I’m getting there, but I am still having challenges in focusing on my present: the future always seems more interesting! I am also in the process of accepting my limits: a tiny part of me still wishes I could be perfect!

And what about you? Do you believe in all of the 7 points? Would you be willing to adopt a new belief if you knew it could greatly improve your life?

Comments

sounds great, but how can I believe something I dont't believe?

Good question Liz. Our beliefs are learned, most of them are great stuff, but some others are not serving us well. We can unlearn what we no longer need and learn what can make us happier. How? Counselling is one way to do it. Modelling is another, in other words, hanging out with very happy people who can inspire us might naturally lead to a positive change within ourselves.

I just stumbled on this page. All points above are good here. I'd like to add a little since I think about this topic a lot. True happiness is something I find even when I have nothing. It is easier for me to be happy when I have less. Simple is good. Ultimately, for me it is a choice. I decide that I will be happy and seek happiness. I tend find the greatest joy in helping others find happiness. Being selfless and caring really gives me the perspective to see the good in other people even when others can't. Seeing goodness and experiencing joy brings me happiness. Joy without guilt is the best joy. So when I'm helping others, I can seriously enjoy it without feeling guilty. The only flaw here is that I learned not to help others if they aren't willing to help themselves. That ends up helping no one in the long term. I think my greatest happiness will be when I can meet my own expectations in life. The big question for me is what do I want to do most of all? I wish I could answer that right now so I could get started on my plan to ultimate happiness. :)

Chis, what an interesting comment! Guilt is such a burden, especially when you are happy and those around you aren't. Take a look at http://www.evenhappier.com/inspiration/can_i_choose_to_be_happy_every.html
you might like it

You say "I think my greatest happiness will be when I can meet my own expectations in life. The big question for me is what do I want to do most of all?" Looks like you are making it impossible to find your greatest happiness, and that might be the safest option for you, if you still have a bit of guilt to let go of.

So go ahead and recognize it: "I don't want to find my greatest happiness." True? Say it aloud a few times. See what happen. Good luck, Marco :)

I just found your site and I really like it. What an exciting blog!
Your recent post ("7 Beliefs") is a very nice post. I believe that the line of thinking your note is sufficient to increase happiness and well-being.
I'd also like to add, if I may, that true happiness is not a destination but a daily ritual. The most important belief that one must have for more happiness, in my opinion, is this: Happiness is a choice we make each and every day. It is something we impose.
Best,
I'll be back often!!

Thanks for the compliment anonymous commenter!

I agree with you in saying that happiness is a choiche. Daily ritual are also very important.

BTW, the "7 beliefs" post talks only about "Beliefs" of the super happy people, not of their habits or of what they have done to be extra happy. That's way I have left choiche, rituals, and many other things out of the 7 points.

PS: when leaving a comment, put your name on the Name field so I know who you are. You can always place the url of your blog in the body of the comment and in the URL field.

One way to believe something that you want to believe, but don't yet believe for you, is to "act as if" it were true.

Thanks Celestine: that's absolutely true! How could I possibly forget it?

Well, I have noticed that you have been away from the blog for a while: good to see you back ;)

How can be really happy who is conscius oh his mortal destiny?

Cassiel: well, when I have less of something, I usually value it more...

loved this post, i'm a believer!

What a great page. I had just stumbled upon it. I am constantly in a battle with myself to find true happiness with in myself. I am my worst cridic. I understand that it is a choice. I just don't know how to choose it. If that makes sense. Yet something hit me when I was reading this and maybe I need to bring more positive ppl into my life. I think this page and all of you will be a good start. It's good to know that there are other ppl out there like you who want the same things and can help you by sharing their feelings and ideas on how it all works. Thank you. I will definitley be back. And am looking forward to everyones comments. Take care and I hope you all find your inner peace.

Welcome to EvenHappier Christine, and thanks for all your nice words!

I hear you have been hard on yourself in the past: if you were your own ideal parent, how would nurture and reassure yourself now?

i always find when i reflect on my closeness with God, I am confident,truly happy and have the faith to hurdle on thru lifes many dark times.I am not at all trying to preach,I just honestly feel beautifully at my happiest.Where time,people,and places have no relevance to my happiness;only my faith with God.

Hello Jessica,
It sounds like faith is one of your character strengths, good for you.

I wonder if you also rejoice in the company of friends and family, when you see them as gifts from God, or when you recognize their potential to be close to an higher being in ways which might be different from yours.

Im quite willing to believe in something if it woudld change me for the better.

Could you tell me what though, as its all well and good saying this hypothetically, but lets put it into pracice please.

What I love about this post is that it empowers people. Great job, Marco.

Leo: Thanks for your nice comment!

Solly: I hear you about making things more concrete. I'll write a post on how to practically change a belief. Thanks for the tip.

I love the 7 sentiments.. my addition is this: Live in the Moment!
It's all we really have so enjoy it to the fullest or wring it to the fullest just don't forget to LIVE... the future will take care of itself..

I think this is a very worthwhile site - but then you already know that. I don't know if anyone else gets this way, but when I'm 'in the the zone' I can identify with all the things you suggest. The trouble is when I slip out of it, I just find that, "Easy for you to say" feeling creeping up on me. I just have to stumble on and try to find my way back. I keep forgetting where the door is if you excuse the allusion.

Elaine:
I agree 100%. Easier said than done of course, and yet I am finding myself fully enjoying my present more and more often.


Chris:
Getting there is already quite a challenge, finding a way back is extremely tricky, and yet it is all worth it: every moment of 7-beliefs-bliss I spend adds meaning and joy to my life.

This is a very worthwhile site. Anything that helps people to realise their happiness can't be bad.
I can sign up for most of the prescription but sometimes when I really need to find my way back into the happiness zone these rules seem less relevant and harder to achieve.

It does not satisfy me completely, happiness is a very wide term to be understood first and then to be pursued for...
These can not be the habbits of super happy people. because I believe that happiness can only be achieved for a definite period and it is relative... No one can be permanently happy, how will you measure happiness when you do not have and sad thing to compare it to?
There are no super happy people... they do not exist in reality... because life moves in waves we have equal amount of happiness and grief in our lives, none of them would exist independent of each other... even I have some views on happiness If any one cares to read.

Marco, great post and liked your points. I'd join some others who's commented in that I'd also love to see more elaboration on how to achieve the beliefs. Especially the #3 and #5 looks the most difficult to me.

Thanks Anna: a proper answer deserve a blog post. I'll write about it.

Nice to see such a positive message. I have a great "pledge" I like to begin each day with. It helps to empower you with the knowledge that you are the creator of your universe - and it should be a happy, abundant, joyful place!

It was a pleasure to stumble into this. I've been gathering sentiments of love and peace and strength to take home to my loved ones after being away for a few weeks. A search for healing methods for a physical illness has separated us and now it's time for me to return with a plan. When I'm so often surrounded by difficulties due to this impairment, I have to work a bit harder to find folks like you. Thank you for the hope you offer. Maybe we can find time to share in the future so that someone else who needs a healing touch might receive it through something I can offer.

It's nice to see such an uplifting blog, I am happy to have 'stumbled' upon it :)

Love your post and I agree with your points. I believe every day has good and not so good moments. If you can learn to focus on the good things that happen you can call just about any day a good day.
http://www.ImaNicePerson.com

Useful site. Thank you:-)

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